Night Three: Play & Pleasure - Sensual Attunement and Delight Practice

Intention: Slow down, break routine, and delight each other through sensual (non-genital) touch. Light, playful, deeply attuned.

What you’ll need

• Optional: blindfold

• Optional: massage oil

• Timer (set to 15 minutes)

• The playlist provided to set the mood

• Clothing optional - choose what feels true tonight

Before you begin (2 - 3 minutes)

1. Set the space: low light, your playlist on, phones away.

2. Consent & boundaries: name what’s in and out tonight. For the structured portion: no genital touch. We start with sensual connection and pleasure. If you want to move into love making after the practice, go for it!

3. Choose roles: decide who gives first and who receives first.

Round 1 - 15 minutes of receiving / giving

Receiver:

• Your only job is to breathe, soften, and receive. No need to plan what you’ll give back. Let yourself be worshipped.

Giver:

• Your only goal: delight your partner. Stay curious and granular, moment to moment.

• Explore a range of touch across the whole body (excluding genitals): light stroking, nails, slow firm pressure, massage, breath on skin. You may use fingers, mouth, tongue, teeth as desired by you and (most importantly, your partner).

• If using a blindfold, lean into the tease and anticipation.

Communication prompts (use throughout):

• “Do you like the speed?” Yes or no. If no: “Slower or faster?”

• “Do you like the pressure?” Yes or no. If no: “Firmer or lighter?”

• “Do you like where I’m touching you?” Yes or no. If no: “Where would you rather I touch you?”

• “Do you like this stroke, the way that I’m touching you?” Yes or no. If no: “Could you tell me how you would rather I touch you?”

Let it be light, unserious, playful and flirty.

Pause & switch (1–2 minutes)

• When the timer ends, take a few breaths together.

• Thank each other. Check: “Feeling good to switch?”

• Swap roles and repeat the 15-minute practice.

Round 2 - 15 minutes of receiving / giving

• Exactly like round 1.

Close & integrate (around 2 minutes each)

Share briefly:

• What did you experience?

• What did you feel?

• What did you love?

• What would you want to experience differently or more of?

• Anything else you want me to know?

After the practice

• Follow what’s true. You may move into lovemaking, or simply rest together. You can take the first steps and keep listening. A no is always allowed.

• If you continue, notice how much more alive and awake your bodies feel after slowing down and attuning.

Have the most beautiful evening.

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